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Article: Don’t Fence Me In

How do you define and create boundaries in your life, work and even with yourself?

It’s not always a clear-cut line (though, sometimes, it has to be!).

I wanted to share my summer post on The Coaching Tools Blog: Don’t Fence Me In: Unlock Successful Life Balance with Practical Boundaries

We are so often a society of Yes. How frequently do (you or) your clients take on extra projects, problems or work when your plate is already full? How many of your clients are even aware of their own plate is already full?

Whether you’ve got a client with a new goal, a frustrated client (because they never seem to get anything done) or a client in full overwhelm, it’s time to talk about boundaries!

The good news is: boundaries do not have to be limiting. The other good news is: sometimes they have to be – and these boundaries will create beautiful space for your client succeed in their goals. Jenn Danielson

Values and Priorities: The First Pieces of Information

In order to set boundaries, we must first be clear on what we want to achieve, what’s important to us. Your client’s values and priorities, and the urgency and importance of each project or goal, will define how much time and energy they need in a day, week or month.

To help my clients, I love using expansive questions, calendar models, the wheel of life, mind maps and grids to fully identify, connect and align a client with their values, goals, projects – and life. This sets the groundwork for creating steps to success.

And for our overly committed clients, boundary setting is essential – and the counterpart to accountability.

Because we all so often want to please others, and also have own guilt and accomplishment to manage, setting “boundaries” can feel unduly harsh or limiting. The good news is: boundaries do not have to be limiting. The other good news is: sometimes they have to be – and these boundaries will create beautiful space for your client succeed in their goals.

Unlock Life Balance with These 4 Types of Practical Boundaries

…continue reading for the four types of boundaries

Share in the comments! How do you apply boundaries in different settings?

Coach Certification – I got it :)

Well, it’s been a while since my last post here, and it’s been a full few months. My first news to share is that I (finally*) hit the submission button, wrote the test and am now happily an ACC (Associate Certified Coach) with the International Coach Federation (ICF).

What does this mean for you and me? Well, it means I have taken an accredited training program, included mentored hours of coaching, completed over 100 hours of coaching sessions and passed the ICF examination that covers, in-depth, each critical component of coaching. So I come to each coaching session with an establish method and understanding of the processes and navigation to create your best connections. For me, it means confirmation of my committment to my own coaching journey. It doesn’t stop here, and continues through toward the Professional and Master certificate levels, that requires continuing education components along with continued experiential hours.

I am looking forward to all the next coaching sessions with amazing people, connecting their life to create balance and growth on purpose, with purpose!

*finally: I had more than enough coaching education. I had more than enough hours. And yet, I didn’t submit as soon as I could. In fact, it took me and extra three months to submit, and four of the six-week windows to write the test. Procrastination? A little. Balance? Even more importantly for me, a fair bit of life balance assessment. I knew I wanted and would achieve this coaching credential – and I knew I had life, family and new work projects to be fully engaged in at the time. So I took the time I knew I needed to get here.

I could have pushed through it to get it done. I could have created a big, looming unattached goal and finish line – look! A thing to complete! No context. No connection. Just a “goal”.

And that would not have met or altered any of my requirements or timelines for my connected goals as a coach, and could have impacted my summer goals with my family and other projects.

So, I wrote the exam last week. And it was excellent timing.

Go. Do your things. In the best time for you.

Confidence Boost

How do you connect to your confidence? When going through change, it’s natural to feel a lack of confidence, even in something that has been a solid skill. Everything shifts, and we can feel lost.

I had a few coaching conversations recently that all related to recovering lost confidence and shared a few tips for uncovering our hidden strengths. It’s written for coaches, but it applies equally to any skill.

Read the full article: 

https://www.thecoachingtoolscompany.com/boost-your-coaching-confidence-with-these-3-easy-tools-by-jenn-danielson/ 

Synchronicity

It’s been a while since I added an audio connection and it seems like the right time to start again 🙂

I wanted to share a little about synchronicity and coincidence – how it can show up and, more importantly, what to do about it

Start 2018 Connected

Happy New Year!

While I’m often torn about letting the calendar dictate how and when to start things – there are so many other factors! – it’s hard to deny there is something appealing about this time of year when it comes to fresh starts.

Never mind the societal, traditional New Year’s resolutions, we have the return of light after the winter solstice, in the Northern hemisphere, and closing of a week of festivities that feels like a fresh restart of our daily lives.

Add a bright full moon on the first day of this year and it’s a recipe to close off 2017, let go of what is no longer needed or helpful and step into 2018 with only what we want to bring.

And, I don’t know about you but, this year, the change from 2017 to 2018 feels like one helluva a good moment to re-evaluate and set up the next 12 months for positive growth and clear priorities.

I’m setting up for a new year with renewed practice and focus, and I’m inviting everyone along for the first 12 weeks. We’ll look at 6 major areas of life to identify and create space, set goals and define priorities. If you’d like to join the ride, you can connect in the Facebook group to get clear on these areas with live sessions, exercises and conversations. Or keep it high level and take your own journey with prompts in Instagram.

However you begin this new calendar year, all the best. May you stay connected to your best .

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Take Advantage of Mindful Moments

My new article 4 Ways to Have Easy Mindful Moments That Benefit You and Your Clients is available on The Coaching Tools blog and, while it’s written for coaches, the content is equally valuable and usable for everyone.

How can you make the most of increasing your awareness and presence? A little mindfulness and create better balance and relationships in work and life when you:

  1. make more informed decisions
  2. better adapt to situations
  3. better communicate your needs

Here is the full article!

We’ve all heard about mindfulness. It’s hard to escape the idea these days! Being “mindful” has pervaded every aspect of our lives from spiritual growth to eating, business and the boardroom. But, what does mindfulness really mean for you, as a coach, and what can it really do for your clients?

Here are 4 ways that mindfulness can benefit you and those you coach:

For the Coach:

  1. Mind you – Before a coaching session, check in with yourself. 
    What are you noticing about your current state? Take a moment to breathe deeply, and let go of any extra thoughts or worries that aren’t relevant to your upcoming coaching session. Mentally set your worries and concerns aside – or write them down to manage later. Take stock of your focus and your attention – and intention – to work with your upcoming client. Shake off any physical tension and stress. Sometimes it just takes a few jumping jacks to reset everything!
  2. Mind your space. Take a moment and look – really look – at your coaching space.
    Even if you coach by phone and your client will never see your space, having an environment that supports you will support your client throughout your conversation. Step back and look for any distractions like unfiled documents or clutter. Do you have the things you’l need close at hand? Being present, focused and taking a mindful look at your coaching space beforehand allows you to keep a more mindful, active presence for your client during the session.

For your Client:

  1. Mind your client.
    You know active listening is a key component to a great coaching session! Keeping mindful of your presence during a session is a catch-22 situation. You want to be aware of your presence, but you don’t want to be paying attention to your own presence at the cost of your coaching. It takes practice to recognize how present you are – and it’s well worth the effort. Try checking in silently with how present you are with your client before you ask a question or at natural breaks in the conversation: what are you noticing? Regardless of your answer – never judge yourself. This is your chance to take stock and reset as needed. Maybe you need to shift to a more comfortable position in your chair to limit the distraction of a sore leg, or write a note to yourself about a thought that surfaced for you. And save any significant evaluations of your internal or external distractions for after the session!
  2. Support your client’s mindfulness.
    The more your client recognises and understands the impact of their actions on themselves and others, the better equipped they are to make their best choices. Consider opportune moments to incorporate questions for your client to check in, in a mindful way, on their insights, answers and thought process during coaching. To be more mindful, some clients will resonate with the idea of intuition, the feel of a room, or the colour of a conversation. Others will find it easier to assess changes in their heart rate, tension in the jaw or shoulders, or to notice whether they’re seated with an open or closed posture. You will come to know your clients and how they best connect with mindful concepts.

Keep it simple, be more mindful with these 3 steps:

Regardless of where you inject a little more mindfulness in your coaching, it’s the same three steps:

  1. Pause
  2. Identify
  3. Acknowledge

And the optional fourth step:

  1. Adjust? Everything may be exactly as it should be. Or perhaps a tweak or overhaul is needed. And it may not be the time, place or situation to adjust – which is why this fourth step is a question.

And now, with mindfulness, you and your client can go forward more aware and present to the whole coaching session – and questions at hand.

Contributing author: Jenn Danielson brings science and spreadsheets together with incense and energy to help people create balanced growth. With a background in science, standards and project management along with solution-focused coaching, Reiki and mindful practice, she supports people creating their next best career steps, within the bigger picture of their lives. Connect the dots and walk the balance of career, health, life, family & fun. Visit Jenn’s website here and follow her on FacebookTwitter or Instagram.

100 Things I Connect With – Part 2: Around Me

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I posted the first in a four part series of things I connect with.

Well, you  can connect to pretty much anything, I wager. Should you? Probably not. Although some will argue that there is a time and place for everything. I say, the more you experience thoughtful connections, the more you recognise what connection feels like in different situations, and the more you learn how to connect – and let go – consciously. What you choose to connect with – and the strength of that connection – impacts everything else in your life on some scale.

Over the coming weeks, I’ll share some of who and what I connect with: In Me; Around Me; In Others; In Inter-connection.

It’s been a while since then. Let’s do part 2. What I connect with, around me:

  1. the air pressure
  2. the smell of rain or snow
  3. scents and odours
  4. the presence of light
  5. the fall of shadow
  6. the movement of trees
  7. softness or hardness of the ground underfoot
  8. silence
  9. rise and fall of conversations
  10. music
  11. song
  12. colour tone
  13. colour intensity
  14. energy in the space
  15. flow in a space (height, direction)
  16. wind or breeze
  17. sound, flow and energy in moving water
  18. warmth or coolness
  19. how things are aligned or organised
  20. form and function of objects
  21. art
  22. architecture
  23. whimsy
  24. growth/regeneration
  25. story

Without judgement, what do you notice around you right now? What steps out and makes itself known? What do you have to think about and search for?

What is it like to just feel into it for a moment?

Stay connected 🙂 Part 3 will be sooner rather than later!

 

 

Happy new year – welcome to 2017

Wow.

2017. That’s so weird to type. My fingers just won’t go that way.

And yet. They will. I have to think about it. Maybe make a correction. But they will. Because that’s what I want them to do. It’s what’s “right” to do.

I keep coming back to the idea that we learned in November’s Connect to Your Body workshop: that your body will do what you ask of it – it wants to! – so be conscious of what and how you direct it. Instead of “type the date”, I can think “type 2017”. It makes a difference.

(go on, try it, you know you want to!)

So, along with the calendar, what else shifts for you in 2017? What grows? What are you creating or adjusting? How do you shift your thinking, or your ask to help it connect?

What are you letting be in its full, now awesomeness? Let the connections that are working for you linger and be easy!

Get the goods on this year’s upcoming workshops and group connections, and anxiety busting, balance inducing clarity & goodness. Keep up on the (infrequent!) emails by signing up below, and join the Facebook group for even greater access to goodness.

Keep it connected,

Mindful Body Round-Up

In the 42 Days of Connections Facebook Group (we are on-going and would love to see you there!) we’ve been talking about the impact of the mind on the body, what your body may be trying to tell you about your emotional state, stress or other decisions.

Is your stomach feeling queasy over a decision you are torn over? Is your headache your cue to step back and relax? Knees are all over the idea of movement…so if you are feeling stuck – in a job, in a situation, or a meeting – do they get jittery or sore?

It may not be this dramatic…or maybe it is:

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**Super big reality check: Now, clearly, your body also tells you about what your body is doing. Sudden pain in your foot? Check and make sure you didn’t step on a nail before you start on an inner inventory of your day’s events.**


Once you’ve ruled out stabby things, over-exertion and other physical considerations, there are lots of other things left in the running. So, where do you begin?

Well, after checking out my previous post on the subject, of course, here are a few other resources that you can review. This runs the gamut, from authors, to consumer medical sites, woo-adjacent ezines and business blogs. It’s something that we all can make better use, in pretty much any area of our lives. Just listen to your body to connect the dots.

Is your work supporting you? You know, in those ways other than just financially.

This article was published last month on the Coaching Tools Company blog and, while written to coaches, there’s nuggets in here for anyone.

We all work. In some way or fashion and, far more often, in many ways and fashions. Sometimes we do what we do because we believe it’s just part of the gig. Do we love it? Do we even like it? Does it matter?

Oh, yes it does, ladies & gentlemen. It so does.

We’ve all seen the articles and heard the inspirational talks about how mindfulness can help us feel better, be calmer and “amp up” our self-care. And that self-care is critical for you to be your best for your clients! But, did you know that practicing mindfulness on a regular basis can also become a ‘go-to’ place when you want to assess how your work is supporting you?

It’s not just warm-fuzzies. Mindful connection can be the barometer for you and your direction in your work. What better time to regain clarity and focus than now?

…read the full article on the The Coaching Tools Company

Now, I’m not suggesting we can foist off every little piece of work that doesn’t suit our deepest desires. But what if some of them can be? What if you can monitor yourself and your mood going into and doing those things that aren’t your favourite? What if making the connection between a boring task and the bigger picture changes your whole outlook?

Perhaps better goals, better work, better outcomes, and better you throughout.

I’ll take that.